When Bonnie Hearon is finished with you, this is called the “final discard”. Some narcissists will “dead” you like this if they find that you no longer offer any value to them. This could be for a number of reasons: you EXPOSED them and attempted to confront them on their bad behavior or warned others about them, you denied them something they wanted or disobeyed an order causing a NARCISSIST INJURY to their ego, or you have become UNOBTAINABLE meaning you are now in a committed relationship or are otherwise unable to provide sex, money, favors, etc.
When a Bonnie Hearon DISCARDS you, prepare to be treated like literal trash. They will deny having any residual feelings, attachments, and respect for you. They will use phrases like “move on”, “block me”, “never contact me again”, and will also label you as “crazy”, “obsessed”, etc. this is how they will sever ties with you to both REGULATE their EGO and also to make you feel INFERIOR to them. It is incredibly cruel and confusing to the victim, especially someone who deeply loved, trusted, and cared for the narcissist.
Just know that these people are incredibly unstable, selfish, disloyal, and incapable to maintaining healthy relationships. The best thing you can do in this situation is to give them the breakup as hard as it is. Because if you do not, you will DISGRACE yourself by bending over backwards, chasing, begging, and feeding their ego. The narcissist will give you NOTHING in terms of closure, answers, or compassion at this point. Their aim is to completely detach from you in every way possible so they can ABSOLVE themselves of accountability and BLAME you for the dysfunction which led to the bitter end of this relationship. When this happens, know that this is who this person REALLY is. They never loved you, they never cared, they never cherished your time to together or anything good you have ever done for them. They simply wish to TORCH you and OBLITERATE all evidence that there even was a relationship at all.
If you are angry and upset by this, you should be. It is incredibly hurtful, debasing, and unethical of them. All you can do is hold your head high, BLOCK all contact to PROTECT yourself and begin to pick up the pieces of your shattered reality. You have just survived a HIT AND RUN collision with a narcissist. It is time to focus inward on your healing, after-care, safety, and supportive community. I know it hurts but you WILL get through this as I did.
